Sharing uncomplicated truths to encourage and educate women to embrace their healing power.
"I will survive!" said your brain when you were little 🤔
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We've been talking about Survival Mode In the new private community space, The Healing Circle, Reader. Have you ever considered how your version of Survival Mode presents in your life? Do you know what it is, and how it's created? I'll get to that shortly.. But first, how many survival mode examples (just to name a few) in the list below can you relate to? 🌷 Perfectionism Each of us has some version of Survival Mode showing up in our lives. Firstly, I want you to know that it's normal, but it's important to consider if it might be harmful. Survival Mode starts to form in your psyche after you are born. In the first two years of life, your brain and nervous system learn whether your needs will be met by your nurturers and protectors... your parents... or not. You learn to trust others, or not. As you grow, that foundational belief will be the basis of how you behave in your relationships. It will also impact how you show up for your family, and work. Through each different stage of life, your experiences add to, and shape, your perceptions, thoughts, feelings, and behaviours. Each time your brain detected a threat (anything that caused you stress), it did what it needed to do to ensure your survival, as the brain's job is to keep you safe. As a child, if you weren't heard, held, or validated, you most likely learned, and came to believe, that you couldn't rely on others to keep you safe. The development of those behaviours were helpful at the time to help you adapt, but left unchecked for prolonged periods, there is the potential for those patterns to cause suffering. 🤔Maybe you feel unhappy, stressed, and exhausted. 🤔Your relationships may be dysfunctional or challenging. 🤔You might constantly rush, feel overwhelmed, guilty, or shameful. In The Healing Circle we had a wonderful conversation about how surviving our life experiences have contributed to our lives, and what to do about it. No judgement, just support. If this is something that could benefit you, to understand the past, resolve the present, and create the future you want, consider joining us in our private space. We have two live calls a month, recorded, for everyone to access whenever they want, with resources. Our next call is coming up very soon, and we will be talking about self-sabotage (thanks to the request from one of our members). To understand more about Survival Mode, my blog article also goes into great detail about what it is, how it was created, and how it might be harming you. I hope we'll see you in The Healing Circle for the next call, Reader. It's a private space for women who really want to focus on the path of healing their lives. Love, Ali x |
Ali Williams (alijwilliams.com)
Sharing uncomplicated truths to encourage and educate women to embrace their healing power.
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